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30 by 30 – Two years left update

A while back, I published a “30 by 30” list of 30 things to do before I turned 30. If you’re reading this on February 9th, 2017, then there are officially two years left to complete my list. So here’s my big update!

  1. Fly first class

Shortly after posting this list, I won business class international tickets! May will see me on a first class flight to Dallas, and a business class to Rome! This is my opportunity to explore the city when it’s actually…open, and not covered in snow.

  1. Visit California
  1. Get a tattoo
  1. Buy myself a nice purse

I purchased two nice leather purses from Wilson’s Leather as a replacement for the Fossil purse an ex bought me. I’d still like to save up for a Kate Spade, but these are a nice interim step that I am 100% counting it.

  1. Finish scrapbooking year in Poland (and maybe Utah)
  1. Invest in my succulent garden and planters

I have a beautiful car planter and airplane planter. There are a few globe and train planters I have my eye on, but I believe in finding these organically–through antique shops and flea markets. I have successfully pruned and propagated succulents, though. So I count this!

  1. Skydive
  1. Start a workout routine
  1. Practice speaking to/approaching strangers
  1. Develop a web/blog strategy
  1. Read more books each year than the last

In 2015, I read 25 books.

In 2016, I read 29 books.

So far in 2017, I’ve read 6 books. I’m still not reading as much as I used to, but I’m getting there again.

  1. Learn to curl my hair
  1. Send postcards “just because”
  1. Have a session with a professional photographer
  1. See the DC cherry blossoms

Scheduled for this March/April. Crossing my fingers that my trip aligns with the blossoms!

  1. Say “Yes, and”
  1. Take a vacation abroad just because

Aforementioned trip to Italy/Greece/Turkey.

  1. Run a 5K
  1. Find a charity cause (and spend time with it)
  1. Focus on the positive
  1. Finish a significant crochet project (dog sweater or human blanket)
  1. Work on my skincare regimen

I’m actually doing a really great job of using moisturizer and washing my face well at night. With my growing interest in makeup, it turns out that healthy, moisturized skin makes a huge difference.

  1. Surround myself with people and things I love

This summer, I’d begun a bit of an accidental Marie Kondo approach to my life and closet. It continued, and I donated 10 garbage bags and boxes of gently used clothing and items. When I started online dating again, I tried to embrace this mentality toward people. 

In the past, I’d be reluctant to be upfront when I’m uninterested in continuing a relationship with someone I only talked to a few times. I had tried to be honest, but I found that netted me aggressive, angry responses from people. 

This time around, I am focusing on me. So do I feel bad if I “ghost” from a conversation? Occasionally. If I meet with someone in person, I at least text that person that I’m not interested in continuing the connection. But I am remembering that I don’t owe anyone anything. I also don’t need to surround myself with people who make me unhappy. I have spent far too long going out of my way for people who would never do the same for me. I have spent so much time putting forth effort to connect socially with people out of obligation. I want to connect with people out of joy.

  1. Become a regular (bar? coffee shop?)
  1. Go back to Notre Dame with someone I love
  1. Languages

I’m taking a Russian class, and my Duolingo app isn’t totally lonely. I could still use more work on this one, but it’s not too shabby!

  1. Go to a lantern festival
  1. Do something messy (mud run, paint party, foam club, color rave, etc.)
  1. Celebrate holidays (pumpkin carving, gingerbread houses, Easter egg dying, fireworks)

In addition to Bentley’s many holiday ties and themed toys, we have worked on this slightly through the holidays. This October, we made sure to go to the pumpkin patch, decorated the apartment, and hit up two Halloween parties. In November, we celebrated Thanksgiving with friends and family in a beautiful place in Tennessee. In December, I attended cookie baking parties, visited Christmas displays, and decorated again. I made a gingerbread house just for Bentley, and I visited the gingerbread houses at the Mormon Heritage Center.

  1. Refurbish something

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